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Dividing the Family Home in MD | Guerami Law Firm

Published July 26, 2026 on familylawmd.com

The house is usually the biggest thing a married couple owns, and it is where the hardest emotions live. So it is no surprise that "who gets the house" is the first question most people ask. The problem is that in Maryland it is not one question. It is two — and people who answer only one of them sign agreements that fall apart later.

The first question is who gets to live in the house right now, while the children are still young. The second is who ends up owning it, or how its value gets divided. Maryland answers those two questions with two different sets of rules. Confuse them, and you can win the right to stay in the house for a while and still lose your share of what it is worth.

Living in the House vs. Owning It

Use and possession is Maryland's answer to the first question. Under the Family Law Article, a court can award one parent the exclusive right to live in the family home after the divorce — but only under specific conditions. The home has to have been the family's principal residence, it has to be owned or leased by one or both spouses, and — this is the key limit — you must have custody of a minor child of the marriage who lives there. Use and possession exists to keep children in a stable home, not to reward a spouse.

That right is temporary. A use-and-possession order lasts no longer than three years from the date of the divorce, and it ends sooner if the parent who has it remarries. During that period, the court can order the other spouse to help pay the mortgage, taxes, insurance, and upkeep. But when the clock runs out, the ownership question is still sitting there, unanswered. A parent who fought hard for use and possession and never dealt with ownership can find themselves, three years later, with no home and no plan.

How Maryland Actually Divides the Value

Ownership is the second question, and Maryland does not simply split everything down the middle. It follows a three-step process: the court identifies what is marital property, decides what it is worth, and then makes an equitable — not automatically equal — division of the value.

Here is a point that surprises people: whose name is on the deed does not decide who gets the value. A house titled in one spouse's name alone can still be marital property if it was bought during the marriage. But there is a twist. For most assets, a Maryland court cannot pull property out of one spouse's name and hand it to the other; instead it evens things out with a monetary award — an order to pay money to balance the scales. The family home is one of the exceptions: because it is usually jointly owned, a court _can_ order the house sold and the proceeds divided, or transfer one spouse's interest to the other.

The Three Real Options for the House

Sell it and divide the proceeds. This is the clean break, and often the only realistic choice when neither spouse can carry the house alone.

One spouse buys the other out. You agree on a value — usually through an appraisal — and one spouse pays the other for their share and keeps the home.

Use and possession first, then sell or buy out later. The custodial parent stays with the children for up to three years, and the couple settles ownership at the end.

The buyout is where most plans break down, and it is where Maryland law just changed.

Being allowed to live in the house is not the same as owning it. One is measured in years. The other is measured in dollars — and you have to settle both.

The Buyout Problem — and the 2025 Law That Changed It

To keep the house, you have to do two things: pay your spouse for their share, and get your spouse off the mortgage. That second part is the one people forget, and it is the most dangerous. Your divorce decree is an order between you and your spouse. It does not bind your bank. If both names stay on the loan, the bank can still come after both of you — no matter what the decree says about who pays. If your ex pays late, it lands on your credit. When you try to buy your next home, that mortgage still counts against you.

For years, the only way to remove a spouse from the loan was to refinance — take out a brand-new mortgage in one name. In today's interest-rate climate, that often meant trading a low pandemic-era rate for a much higher one, sometimes enough to make keeping the house impossible.

That is what House Bill 1018 changed, effective October 1, 2025. Maryland now requires that most conventional home mortgages include a provision letting a borrower who is awarded the home in a divorce assume the existing loan and buy out the co-borrower's interest — keeping the same interest rate and the same monthly payment — instead of refinancing. The law reaches back to conventional mortgages signed before it took effect, and it applies when the absolute divorce decree is entered on or after October 1, 2025. Lenders now have to disclose this assumption right in writing before you finish a loan application.

This is real relief, but read the fine print. Assumption is not automatic. The lender still decides whether you qualify to carry the loan on your own income. The law covers only conventional loans — FHA and VA loans were already assumable under their own rules. And you still have to fund the buyout of your spouse's equity. HB 1018 removes the interest-rate penalty; it does not hand you the house.

⚠ The Traps to Avoid

Do not confuse use and possession with ownership. The right to live in the house ends — often in three years — and the ownership question does not go away when it does.
Do not leave both names on the mortgage after divorce. The decree does not bind your lender; if your name stays on the loan, you stay liable to the bank and the debt follows your credit.
Do not assume a deed in your name alone protects the house from division, or that a deed in your spouse's name leaves you with nothing. Title does not control marital value.
Do not assume you can simply keep the house. Even under the new assumption law, the lender must approve you on your own income.
Do not rely on advice that predates October 1, 2025. "You'll have to refinance" is no longer the only answer.

★ The Path Forward

Use and possession (Family Law § 8-208) can buy a custodial parent up to three years of stability in the home while the ownership question gets solved.
A mortgage assumption under HB 1018 can let you keep the house and your existing interest rate without refinancing — if the lender approves you.
A sale with divided proceeds is the honest option when neither spouse can carry the house alone.
A monetary award balances the value when the home is titled in one name.
Getting your spouse off the mortgage — by assumption, refinance, or sale — is what makes the decree's payment terms mean something to the bank.

The family home is rarely just an asset. It is where your children sleep and where your next chapter starts. Deciding what happens to it is not a form you download — it is a decision with a three-year clock on one side and a mortgage on the other, and getting it right the first time is worth doing with someone who does this for a living.

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